I work in three modalities:

INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOTHERAPY

In 50 minute sessions, through talking we will move towards a greater understanding of you. You can’t rewrite history, but therapy can help you live with it differently. We so often go through life with a set of assumptions about ourselves and the world that were made when we were younger- we live with them as if neither the world, nor the self has changed. Sometimes people become stuck in some way of relating, thinking, acting,- talking to someone about how you relate, act or think can help you do it differently the next time.

EMDR (EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION AND REPROCESSING)

EMDR is a relatively quick, non-invasive and drug free way to treat trauma. It works well with issues related to Depression, Post Traumatic Stress, Phobias, Anxieties, Holocaust, Grief and Creative Blocks. The idea behind EMDR is that trauma causes the brain to alter the way it stores information. Experience has demonstrated that by reprocessing the trauma, a person is able to work through and let go of the negative thoughts around issues that trouble them.

COUPLES THERAPY

Marriage Counselling. Pre-marital Counselling. Partnerships. Parent-Child relationships.

Many married couples seek help because they are no longer satisfied with the way in which they communicate. This can be made worse if there has been an extra-marital affair, or if there are difficulties with finances, children, parents, loss, in-laws, etc.

Couples therapy provides a context for each member of the couple to heal and grow. My best results are with EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), Which is about finding the negative cycles within a couple's pattern of interaction. An example of a negative cycle is: one partner approaches the other for attention/listening/care. Lets for clarity say…she approaches, he feels bugged/nagged and withdraws. She approaches again, hoping for connection. He gets cross. The woman withdraws, and then when he approaches she is withdrawn. This can happen in either direction. Someone approaches, the other withdraws, someone gets disappointed or angry, sulks, demands etc. The outcome of this 'dance' is that neither person is 'there' for the other. Through EFT a couple learns to identify their negative cycles and how to communicate and navigate their way through them.

In the safety of having a third person present, both partners find it easier to express their real needs and fears, and have them listened to by their partner.